Become Your Meaning

The good days may not outnumber the bad, but no one said that they would.

Some of us struggle, with happiness always seeming just out of reach. The ever-driving search for meaning pushing us just beyond the place of contentment others seem to settle into effortlessly. Uneasy and anxious, we claw our way through the darkness, grasping for a ray of light and gasping for a comforting breath.

All of this can feel overwhelming at times. It can feel, even on our best days, as if no matter how good things are, we will never feel on the inside the way others appear to feel on the outside. The good days are overshadowed by the not-so-good days and hope and happiness can feel like a fantasy we only once imagined ourselves to experience in a fleeting moment of delusion.

It is not easy, but that is okay. Life is difficult, more difficult for some than for others. Life will not change to suit us, nor will others adapt to meet us at our level of need.

We must become the light. We must be the breath. We must find our peace and our purpose and we must dedicate ourselves to that, to carry us through the bad days, beyond the struggle, into our meaning and a world that is better because of our willful, persistent, and dedicated participation, in spite of us and because of us.


Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.

Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

Artwork by Ana, except where otherwise noted

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