We can tell what a person values by what they reward.
People can claim to value one thing or another, but as we all know, talk is cheap.
Action, as the saying goes, speaks louder than words.
So when a person says that they value honesty, integrity, kindness, or some other attribute in the people around them, but they actively reward the opposite attitudes and behaviors with their time or attention, we should pay attention.
Life is too short to give the better parts of ourselves to those who do not want or appreciate it.
After all, we should not reward that which we, ourselves, do not value.
We should, instead, seek out those with whom our value is and values are shared.
‘Seeking Shared Value’ by Robert Van Valkenburgh
HOLISTIC BUDO: As in Life, so too in Budo. As in Budo, so too in Life.