No one likes to feel taken advantage of, least of all for being generous. It is embarrassing and painful. But it does not mean you should stop being generous, simply that you should be more discerning with your generosity. Generosity was and is not the problem. The problem is the persons to whom you are … Continue reading Refocusing Generosity
Fear creates isolation. It shrinks your world down to the size of itself, offering no comfort or consolation in the process. Because fear is selfish. It demands all of your attention and cares nothing about you, your relationships, or your desires. Fear is the cancerous destroyer of hopes and dreams, but as powerful as fear … Continue reading Out Of Fear Into Action
To make the greatest change, you must seek out the longest lever. There are certain decisions you can make in your life that will have the greatest overall impact. What is one facet of your life that is disproportionately causing you the most unhappiness? What is the one project, relationship, attitude, or behavior that, if … Continue reading Leveraging Change
Criticism is easy, but it ultimately leads to misery. It helps you to believe you are separate from the person you are criticizing, and it excuses you from looking at yourself and the role you play in your own unhappiness. As long as you can point at someone else as being the problem, you do … Continue reading Critical Separation
Courage and uncertainty go hand in hand. If the results of your actions were guaranteed, you would not need courage. Courage is necessary precisely because you do not know how things will work out. Of course risk should be mitigated whenever possible and to whatever degree possible, but you cannot live courageously and avoid risk … Continue reading Courage And Uncertainty
