Our History Is Not Our Fate

There is more to us than our personal history.  What we have experienced is only a small part of who we are.  It is an even smaller part of who we are meant to be or are capable of becoming.  While our experiences inevitably shape our attitudes, opinions, and expectations, they are not the sole…

Joy And Suffering

We cannot escape suffering in this life.  Suffering is an inevitability.  It cannot be avoided.  It is in us and around us.   Suffering is inherent in the choices we make and the choices we do not make.  This does not mean that suffering should be sought out, celebrated, or enjoyed, however. While suffering is an…

Do More Or Do Better

Most of us are struggling from day to day to survive. We may have hopes and dreams of getting ahead, but, without a plan or the means to execute it, we spend our time and energy doing things that keep us in the very position we wish not to be in. Doing more of the…

Facing Our Fragility

As we transform into someone better, we will feel fragile.  We will feel uncertain and afraid.  We will tell ourselves that the solution to this fragility is to return to who we once were.   This temptation must be resisted.  It will not work anyway.  There is no going back.  There is only forward.  Even in…

Getting Past Blame

Blame is not helpful In fact, it is the opposite of helpful.  Blame hinders our ability to see solutions.  It slows us down.  It stifles our growth, progress, and forward motion.  Blame keeps us in the past. It blinds us to the possibilities of the future.  If we want to achieve our fullest potential, we…